Domestic abuse can have devastating consequences for individuals and families, yet many suffer in silence. Often, the signs of abuse are subtle, and reaching out for help can feel impossible for those affected. Wolverhampton Safeguarding Week reminds us that safeguarding is everyone’s responsibility and we all have a role to play in supporting and protecting those who might be at risk. Whether you’re a family member, a friend, or part of a wider community, your actions can make a profound difference. Here’s how you can help:
Recognise the signs: One of the first steps in safeguarding someone is understanding what domestic abuse looks like. It isn’t always physical; it can include emotional manipulation, financial control, isolation, or verbal intimidation. Look for subtle signs like withdrawal from social activities, unexplained injuries, changes in behaviour, or excessive control exerted by a partner. Trust your instincts. If something feels wrong, it’s worth exploring further. For more, visit our Domestic Abuse Guide here.
Create a safe space for disclosure: For someone who is subjected to domestic abuse, the fear of judgment or retaliation often prevents them from speaking out. As a family member or friend, you can offer a safe and non-judgmental environment for them to open up. Let them know you’re available to listen whenever they are ready. A simple, heartfelt comment like, “I’ve noticed you’ve been quieter lately—are you okay?” can open the door to an important conversation.
Listen without judgment: When someone confides in you, the most powerful thing you can do is listen. Resist the urge to offer immediate solutions or dismiss their experiences. Validate their feelings by saying, “That sounds incredibly hard. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.” Remember, their story is theirs to tell, and your role is to support, not to take control.
Connect them with professional resources: You are not expected to have all the answers, but you can help bridge the gap to professional support. Research local organisations and helplines that specialise in domestic abuse. Share this information gently and encourage them to reach out, assuring them it’s a confidential step toward safety.
National Domestic Abuse Helpline: 0808 2000 247
The Haven Wolverhampton: 08000 194 400
Offer practical help: Practical support can alleviate immediate stress and build trust. Offer to help with small but meaningful actions, such as:
- Providing transportation to appointments.
- Babysitting children if they need time alone.
- Being available for check-ins via text or phone.
These actions demonstrate that they are not alone and that help is available.
Understand the challenges they face: Leaving an abusive relationship is incredibly complex. It can be emotionally, financially, and logistically daunting. Victims/survivors may stay out of fear, love, or because they feel they have no other options. Avoid pressuring them to leave before they are ready, as this can sometimes increase their danger. Instead, focus on empowering them to make their own decisions by emphasising their strength and reminding them they have your support.
Raise awareness in the community: As part of the wider community, you can help by fostering an environment that doesn’t tolerate abuse. Share educational materials, participate in local initiatives, and challenge attitudes or behaviours that excuse or minimise abuse. By creating a culture of awareness and accountability, we can make it easier for victims/survivors to seek help without fear of stigma.
Provide ongoing emotional support: Support doesn’t end with a single conversation. Domestic abuse often involves a long journey toward safety and healing. Stay connected, check in regularly, and remind them that your support is always there. Small acts of kindness, like sending a thoughtful message or offering a listening ear, can help them feel valued and cared for.
Safeguarding someone affected by domestic abuse isn’t about being a hero; it’s about being present, compassionate, and proactive. By educating ourselves, offering support, and fostering a community of care, we can help create a safer world for everyone.
Every action, no matter how small, can have a ripple effect. This Wolverhampton Safeguarding Week, let’s commit to standing together to protect and empower those who need it most.
If you or someone you know is affected by domestic abuse, please don’t hesitate to reach out for help. Support is available, and you are not alone.
